salad: make heap struct more friendly to use

Now heap API works with struct heap_node only, which forces a
user to constantly call container_of. Such a code looks really
awful. This commit makes heap taking and returning user defined
structures, and removes container_of clue.

It is worth noting, that the similar API rb-tree and b-tree
have. Even rlist has its rlist_*_entry() wrappers, and mhash
provides macroses to define your own value type.