wal: add event_mask to wal_watcher

In order to implement WAL auto-deletion, we need a notification channel
through which the WAL thread could notify TX that a WAL file was deleted
so that the latter can shoot off stale replicas. We will reuse existing
wal_watcher API for this. Currently, wal_watcher invokes the registered
callback on each WAL write so using it as is would be inefficient. To
avoid that, let's allow the caller to specify events of interest when
registering a wal_watcher.

Needed for #3397